Love how you combined all the dreadful happenings at home with her sense of duty for her Slayers - Plus, like how you started bringing in her really great conflict between her duty as a mother and her duty as Slayer General - 

It's a very complicated situation - The independent and career woman in me wants to shout out - HE IS SO WRONG to put her in this situation.  But the child also has great big huge needs.  

I think that Xander, while he is thinking about what their child needs also used the situation to trample on Buffy's rights - how he handled everything was so wrong.  This two people should never have had this child. 

I am delighted to have just found this story and read it all in one sitting.  Your writing is superb.  You've made the story come alive in a very very realistic way.  Your character voices are spot on.  I swear, I feel like I'm watching the show on TV.  The tension between Buffy and Spike is so real.  I yearn for the mushy happy relationship we often get between them in fandom, but I feel like you are writing them more true to character than all the fics that just give us what we desire right away.  You've also made the whole situation between Buffy and Xander believable.  I'm really really excited to read the rest of this amazing story.